Is That Your Real Name?
No. I started using Desina when I started writing fan fiction because the site recommended a pseudonym. At the time, I worked for a big company where my writing could have created a perceived conflict-of-interest problem with my day job. So, even though I’d cleared it with legal, I decided that a pseudonym made the matter less problematic. I answer to Desina and Des.
What Else Have You Written?
Ages ago, back when paper books dominated the porn/erotica space, adult novels that might, if they were new work, find a home in Ellora’s Cave EC for Men line.
Why Do You Write Romance and Erotica?
First, I agree with what Lori Witt says here.
It’s really been a full-circle experience for me. Back when I started writing, Compuserve was all the rage. At that time, the Human Sexuality forum brought in 1/4 of all of Compuserve’s revenue. The forums had a chat room, and I used to ask people coming in (when they were comfortable enough to ask these things): what are you into? Followed by: why does that work for you?
Before then, I thought most people were on very similar pages sex-wise. What I learned was almost exactly the opposite: the fingerprint of what turns someone on and off (and why) is so distinct that it may indeed be unique in the world.
Oh, and I also learned this: that most of what I heard people say in response to my questions are things I’ve never read in a book. Hell, I’ve tried things I’ve never read in a book…yet.
The other thing I learned, once I got to know a few people on the site particularly well: sexuality is deeply ingrained into personality. It’s for this reason that I don’t really believe in waiting for marriage to have sex. I don’t think people know enough about themselves to be fully honest about who they are to themselves without some experience, and putting a huge fear of rejection on top of that is asking for trouble. Sure, some people seem to make it work, but I don’t truly know how well they make it work.
Related to that, I think a lot of us explore our fantasy lives through books (or other media). For a long time, I had a secret fantasy of life with two men. I felt ashamed about it. The popularity of ménage fiction tells me it’s at least a common fantasy, and the people I know living in ménage situations full time lets me know it can work in real life. Books helped make me more comfortable with my inner freak.
What Kind of Books Do You Like?
I read a lot. I read from all erotica and erotic romance publishers, but I find that Samhain is probably closest to my taste generally. I read about 1/4 to 1/3 of their new releases, week in, week out.
My personal favorites include several of the following elements: comedy (most important), great banter, erotica, ménage, paranormal. I read a lot of BDSM though it’s not my personal thing. I am interested in issues of consent, and that’s where they tend to be explored.
What Kind of Books Don’t You Like?
I don’t read horror, zombies, or werewolves. I’m not interested in people who love dogs. Dogs themselves I can take in small doses, and some are adorable. I’d just rather not read about them in any form.
I find myself remarkably uninterested in the sex lives of female characters who’ve never had good sex. I do like books of sexual transition and discovery, just not quite at that neophyte end of the spectrum. There are plenty of other people who do like these books, and plenty who write them well — and it’s all good. Just not my personal taste.